Author: Shirley Lynn

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I’ve got some exciting upcoming trainings and growth opportunities – take a quick peek and find what resonates with you. Hope to see you soon!    – Shirley Lynn

Peace Circle:  Loving Mother Earth, Loving Self

“You carry Mother Earth within you … She is not outside of you. Mother Earth is not just your environment.
In that insight of inter-being, it is possible to have real communication with the Earth, which is the highest form of prayer. In that kind of relationship you have enough love, strength and awakening in order to change your life. …”

          Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh

If these words of wisdom by Thich Nhat Hanh speak to you, you won’t want to miss our next Peace Circle on Saturday, June 24th.

Karen and Shirley Lynn have put together an inspiring Peace Circle during which participants will have the opportunity to reflect on and draw wisdom from Thich Nhat Hanh’s article ‘Falling Back in Love with Mother Earth’.

Outcomes we wish for this Circle:

  • to learn ‘to do’ self love by ‘loving Mother Earth’
  • to expand, enhance and deepen our meaning of self love as we learn to expand/deepen our meaning of loving Mother Earth
  • to create deeper connection and integrated awareness of the path to loving ourselves, to loving Mother Earth
  • to support community who chooses to love ourselves, Mother Earth, and each other
  • to experience the healing power in the Circle ceremony and stories that collectively transform our being and our relationships.

Saturday, June 24th, 2017

12:00pm – 4:00pm in Waterloo, ON

Weather permitting, this Circle will be outdoors

Cost: $60 (+HST)

For more information about Peace Circle and to register, please email Shirley Lynn at Shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com. Additional details about the Summer Peace Circle will be posted very soon.


Reiki Level One Training

life changing and so wonderful…

lotus-215460_640You wouldn’t believe how many people have expressed this sentiment to me as they begin their Reiki journey. And they mean it. In fact, this is one of the reasons I continue to teach these powerful healing techniques and spiritual practices to students just like you.

Are you ready to begin?

Gendai Reiki Ho and Komyo Reiki Kai are often called Japanese Reiki, or traditional Japanese Usui Reiki. These styles are simple yet profound ways to improve and bring balance, harmony, inner relaxation and pure awareness to our mind, body, spirit relationship.

This Level One Intensive includes 20 hours of class time over three days:

Friday & Saturdays June 2-3, & 10 (3 days)
9:30am – 4:30pm
Location:  Waterloo, Ontario

Cost: $350 +HST (includes training manual with extensive addendum)

WHAT WE WILL STUDY:

  • Level One Reiki meditations
  • Reiki Ryoho history and core spiritual teachings
  • The Five Principles and how to apply them in your everyday life
  • Hand positions and giving treatments
  • Grounding and centring through Reiki
  • Treating plants, animals and water through Reiki
  • and more…

Reiki is a ♥️heart path♥️, a path of spiritual practice and awakening as well as self healing.

If you are seeking organic growth, a wealth of self-empowerment and a deepening of the vibrations of Universal Love and Harmony, join me in this life long path of growing into health, happiness and abundance in shared heart-based community!

For more information about this training, whether it is right for you, and to register, please contact me at Shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com, 519-886-6732 or visit my website for Reiki Level One.


New Podcasts in the works

Look for upcoming podcasts in which Colin Hillstrom and Shirley Lynn discuss “Conversations about Healing”. We asked our respective clients what questions they have about the healing process. During the podcasts, we will be sharing our thoughts and experiences in responding to these questions.

Stay tuned!

The Self Kindness Response:  Boundaries for Healthy and Joyful Living Workshop

  • Are you tired of feeling misunderstood, taken advantage of, uncared for and want to learn and practise how to say yes or no in ways that feel right for you?
  • Do you struggle with setting boundaries that are kind yet firm?
  • Are you ready to let go of longstanding feelings of hurt and resentment and choose instead ‘inner happiness’?
  • As a highly sensitive person, do you find yourself picking up on other people’s emotional or energetic ‘stuff’?
  • Are you ready to exercise greater loving-kindness in your self care?

If you can relate to any of these questions, this workshop is for you! Mark your calendar now.

Friday & Saturday, September 29-30th, 2017

9:00 am to 5:00 pm

Location: Private Home just minutes from (north) Waterloo, ON

Cost: $297 +HST

Need a sampler of this workshop? Check out my three-part podcast series In Conversation with Jen about Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living. Join my conversations with Jen Bodenham as we explore what boundaries are and why we need them. I hope it motivates you to join me at my two-day workshop in September!


Spring Maintenance Reminder

Book an individual coaching session or series and fine tune your Soul’s Purpose and polish your inner beauty.

At Feathers, Rainbows & Roses, the Spring Maintenance Program utilizes the Wisdom’s Way to Peace System of Life & Spiritual Development. I will integrate the techniques of life coaching, spiritual-ethical direction, life and spiritual awakening coaching, Reiki meditation and healing, energy psychology therapy, energy balancing techniques, and conflict management coaching. And, you will leave each session with Action Steps designed to advance your wellness, happiness and success – ultimately fulfilling your goals and life purpose. Move beyond To-do’s to TA-DA!!

Richest blessings to each and every one of you. May your hearts be filled with light and song.

Namaste,

Shirley Lynn

The Hidden Blessing of Spring

The Joy of Spring

Spring is here and so we often find ourselves also getting more spring in our step too! As I write this blog today, I find myself sensing the joy in my heart expand and fill with the blue sky, bright sun, fresh air and green grass. The dogs and I are again playing in the creek behind the house. Of course, they are giggling as they smell the fresh scents, run in and out of the creek and check to see who is coming out of winter’s hibernation! On our way back to the house, Rayna and Carlie drag their feet just like little kids who doesn’t want to go home from the playground. I promise them they can hang outside on the front porch and I will give them a treat for coming back without complaining. I can certainly appreciate their joy of simply taking in the sun and fresh spring air and I join them in savouring the beauty of the day.

For most people, saying good-bye to winter is done with relative ease and cheer. We anticipate the longer and warmer days of spring when purple crocuses and white snowdrops emerge, followed by daffodils and tulips and so many other spring blooms all reawakening and brightening the backdrop of mud and last year’s leftover debris. For most people, the end of winter’s grief rarely registers as anything but a great sigh of relief.

The Paradox

And yet, Spring brings us a new kind of paradox where new life is mixed with new energy. With this new life, we often open with relative ease to ‘let go’ of a ‘bad mood’. We are empowered to ‘lighten our mind’ toward growth and renewal.  In Chinese medicine, spring is the season of the liver and the ideal time to detox the liver system, helping it to ‘let go’. Just like we prune shrubs and bushes to promote healthy and richer growth, our bodies need support to be purified to promote health and vital energy.

In TCM, the metaphysics of frustration, bitterness, and the nuances of anger are often associated with the liver system and its (un)happy chi flow. What an interesting opportunity – the gift of spring to help us more easily release our anger! Spring invites us to ask ourselves: What anger can I let go to lighten my heart? or perhaps What anger can I let go of to increase the joy in my life?

The Disease of Anger

In his book When the Body Says No, Gabor Maté writes that holding onto anger creates a significant cost in hidden stress to the body. Some people know they are angry, but fear their anger. Others are not aware they feel anger because it’s ‘not okay’ to be angry, so they repress it deep into the body. Others believe that if they are angry, it makes them unlovable.

We are aware that unregulated expression of anger is problematic and hurtful to others. We also know that repression of anger causes disease in the body. Maté quotes a Woody Allen character: “ I never get angry. I grow a tumour instead.” So we often are faced with a significant inner conflict – if I get angry, I will rage on others and hurt them which I don’t want to do … or I might not be loved. But if I don’t express it, I will hurt my own body, my own being, even to the point of causing disease. Even our spiritual practice tells me ‘do not anger’! What a seeming doubly double bind we are in! The very thought of this double bind creates anxiety and fear in us because we fear the genuine expression of anger.

Getting Beyond the Double Bind

Allen Kalpin, a physician and psychotherapist writes that healthy anger is an empowerment and a relaxation. Anger does not require hostile acting out. Maté summarizes: People discharge their anger outwardly because they fear fully experiencing it internally. Both the unbridled expression of anger and its automatic suppression arise from an anxiety we first feel in early childhood. It is inherently anxiety-producing for a small child to be angry with those he is dependent on, Dr. Kalpin points out. The real experience of anger “is a physiologic experience without acting out“. The experience is one of a surge of power going through the system, along with a mobilization to attack. There is, simultaneously, a complete disappearance of all anxiety.

“When healthy anger is starting to be experienced, you don’t see anything dramatic. What you do see is a decrease of all muscle tension. The mouth is opening wider, because the jaws are more relaxed, the voice is lower in pitch because the vocal cords are more relaxed. The shoulders drop, and you see all signs of muscle tension disappearing.”[1]

Moving beyond the double bind means we give ourselves permission to feel the surge of aggressive energy that arises with anger, calmly and without anxiety. We also choose to feel our anger without acting it out. Notice the spiritual ethic of so many wisdom traditions, Do not anger. It tells us to not act it out ( a behaviour, not a feeling … it’s the verb form). But for health and well-being, for the joy to flow vital in our hearts, we need to calmly experience the surge of aggression and speak to the injustice. We need to know we are loved and safe within ourselves even with our anger. And as we do, we ‘let it go’ and lighten our minds and hearts.

Compassion: Returning to Joy through Fierceness: The hidden blessing

In my work with psychologist and leadership coach Rev. Rob Voyle, we refer to the Three Faces of Compassion. He describes one of the faces of compassion as fierceness. Fierceness is often a needed expression of compassion in the face of injustice. Voyle states that this “compassion face of fierceness is a single-minded determination to bring about a just future”.

Listen to Martin Luther King Jr speak to the injustices Black America was suffering as a result of systemic racism (and still is). His voice is strong, yet his body is relatively relaxed. He does not mince words in his condemnation of injustices of racism. King has a single-minded focus in challenging and speaking to and expressing his anger about what is grossly unjust in America. His entire spine is filled with the power of “NO”, I will not accept this racism as my destiny. “I have a dream” he so powerfully and eloquently orates to his listeners. His compassion for his people, for his country, for all life was fierce. His joy had immense historical vision. It changed history. As did his healthy anger expressed through fierce compassion.

I am always amazed at the mystery of Universal flows liberating our hearts to increase our joy. The fullness that awakens with Spring and sun and fresh air, flowers budding and birds singing all brighten us. The letting go of the hidden anger, the all-consuming rage causing pain and disease enlightens our bodies and our minds. These two flows join together with a third flow, Love and Compassion of the Universe, creating a trinity of healing and blessing of a new and emerging joy.

With Spring now in full swing, I encourage you to prune the mental habits and filters that keep anger stuck in your heart and body. Follow the seasonal flow and take the time to cleanse. Enhance the flows of joy in your heart and life. Invite the  sunshine back into your heart. If you need help bringing Spring back into your Heart, please contact me at shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com to get started with soul coaching and whole life therapy. Together we will bring new flow to your body, mind and soul.

Namaste,

Shirley Lynn

[1]http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/anger-management/article1113421/

Spring Maintenance Reminder Notice

This notice is not for your car, it’s for You!

With the melted snow, the return of many birds, the re-emerging of hibernating animals and buds on trees and new plant growth, it is easy to feel and see the many harbingers of spring.

Spring has many messages associated with it regarding upkeep and maintenance of our homes, our bodies (both inside and out) and our communities. Property maintenance crews are in full swing; fitness clubs and diet programs urge us to shed extra weight in preparation for summer clothes and activities; health stores are promoting organ detox/cleansing products; and on it goes.

But how often do we put the same emphasis on rejuvenating our inner selves – evaluating our personal goals and aspirations for 2017 (are you on track?); nurturing our relationships and attending to their healthy growth and maintenance; birthing and attending to our soul’s true purpose and beauty??

I invite you to move your Self up your list of priorities … just like your car or home, you can’t neglect its care and expect it to perform optimally in the long term.

SCHEDULE YOUR SPRING MAINTENANCE TODAY. Book an individual coaching session or series and fine tune your Soul’s Purpose and polish your inner beauty.

At Feathers, Rainbows & Roses, the Spring Maintenance Program utilizes the Wisdom’s Way to Peace System of Life & Spiritual Development. I will integrate the techniques of life coaching, spiritual-ethical direction, life and spiritual awakening coaching, Reiki meditation and healing, energy psychology therapy, energy balancing techniques, and conflict management coaching. And, you will leave each session with Action Steps designed to advance your wellness, happiness and success – ultimately fulfilling your goals and life purpose. Move beyond To-do’s to TA-DA!!

Now that’s what I call a SPRING TUNE-UP!  Call or email me today to get started.

When you are ready to live more courageously, shine brighter, reach higher and become your best self, Feathers, Rainbows & Roses is here for you.

Happy Spring Everyone … and see you soon.

Spring Equinox Peace Circle: Forgiving our Past, Rebirthing our Capacity to Love

Why Peace?

“Who will work for peace on our planet? In our relationships? Within ourselves?” These are questions we are currently asking ourselves. With all the negativity that is flooding our airwaves, people are once again saying peace matters, even marching and calling for peace in ways we haven’t seen in decades. We desire love for all humanity and a restored earth.

To make this ‘call’ our collective reality, we must do the work to make peace our experience. We must make peace with our past. We must make peace with the lives we have been giving, rather than wishing for a greener life across the fence. We must be peace. Peace is our path to wholeness, to healing, to the very best of our collective existence.

Change the conversation? Change the chairs!

How do we make peace? One way is to initiate new conversations and a new way to be in conversation. Peter Block writes: “Change the conversation, change your thinking, change your life. Maybe… listening creates the speaking. Maybe citizens create leaders, maybe employees create bosses, maybe students create teachers and children create parents. Maybe the purpose of problem solving is to build relationships.”

This is all to say that we have the power to make monumental changes and that one of the ways is by hearing from one another. We also need to change our environment to be better supported to change the conversation. One powerful and ancient First Nations method that changes the conversation, transforms and heals the conversation, is through Circle. We can create circles for healing, for visioning, for building community, for conflict transformation, for remembering our inner wisdom’s way to peace.

The vital Equinox conversation: Forgiving our Past to Re-birth our Capacity to Love

So now that we have a well-tested method on how to change the environment and the principles of circle to change the conversation, what conversation is vital this equinox? What do we do with all the hatred, the negativity and the resentment that is creeping into our spaces and newsfeeds and into our inner sense of hope? Forgiving our past, forgiving our hurts is truly a key and vital change point. Love cannot exist without forgiving. Forgiving what hurt us is only possible with love. Spring brings us renewed hope and in this place of hope, we can access the faith and power to forgive through love.

As Rob Voyle, change agent and Episcopalian priest writes: “Without forgiveness, people remain trapped in their past, obsessing over what has been done to them. This obsession leads the person to use their injury as a way to re-injure themselves and stay in a state of victimization. While they are looking back to the past, it is impossible to look forward and to experience hope. If we are resentful of things from our past, when we do glimpse the future, we are likely to see a repetition of these painful experiences continuing into the future. Rather than welcome the future we are likely to spend considerable effort in taking self-protective measures.”

Bringing in and participating with the equinox is a call to awaken, to re-birth our vitality. The ultimate vitality is love and forgiveness. A specific task of forgiveness is to release our resentments about what happened in the past. Rob Voyle states that “resentment is a current demand that someone or something in the past should have been different. While the event that created our resentment may be in the past, the resentment is in the present and is manifested as a demand about the past.”

Spring is a special time to release the demands feeding our resentment and instead choose to nurture our capacity to love. Really. It’s time to open to the warmth of the sun and to the flow of our vitality. It’s time to live in love, a new kind of love that truly forgives and creates a genuinely new and better future. We cannot use forgiveness to change the past, but doing so will certainly enlarge and enrich our future. And that is where we will live, in our future.

Where can you have this vital conversation?

Join me in the next Peace Circle on Wednesday, March 22nd from 7-9:30 pm and be re-vitalized by the ceremony of forgiving our resentments together. For details about this event, please visit Spring Peace Circle. Limited seating so don’t wait to register.

If you have never experienced Peace Circle, I invite you to listen to our podcast series and be invited into peace circle with Karen, Tonya and myself.

Peace Circle Podcast series

Join Shirley Lynn Martin, Karen McCarthy and Tonya Noble as we again invite you into Peace Circle with us, to cross the threshold into sacred space and time. In our third and final podcast in this series, we explore the ‘Magic of Peace Circle’ we have each personally experienced. What comes to light is that circle transformation is a process that already begins in our preparation, as well as in the actual encounter and continues even days following the Peace Circle. There is a subtle dawning of synchronous joy, peace and awareness of who we truly are that becomes real in our coming together. The magic is real!

Namaste,
Shirley Lynn

Peace Circle Podcast #3

Join Shirley Lynn Martin, Karen McCarthy and Tonya Noble as we again invite you into Peace Circle with us, to cross the threshold into sacred space and time. This is our third and final podcast in this series of offering a brief experience of Peace Circle.

In this last round, we explore the ‘Magic of Peace Circle’ we have each personally experienced. What comes to light is that circle transformation is a process that already begins in our preparation, as well as in the actual encounter and continues even days following the Peace Circle. There is a subtle dawning of synchronous joy, peace and awareness of who we truly are that becomes real in our coming together.

The magic is real!

Thank you for joining us in this series. For more information about how you can join a live event, please visit Peace Circle for dates, themes and locations.

Peace Circle Podcast # 2

Join Shirley Lynn Martin, Karen McCarthy and Tonya Noble as we again invite you into Peace Circle with us, to cross the threshold into sacred space and time. Join us heart to heart in this unfolding conversation.

This podcast is the second in a series of three. In this circle, we speak to the question, “why do we value Peace Circle and what does it bring into our lives?” In sharing our heart’s knowing as revealed in the sacred space of circle, we delve into the power of connection, community and sharing our heart’s truth. Through this sharing, we are gifted with the possibility of healing and being our best self as we move out and re-join our ordinary lives. Join in, sit with us and share the experience with us.

Thank you for joining us in this series. For more information about how you can join a live event, please visit Peace Circle for dates, themes and locations.

Introduction to Peace Circle Podcast # 1

Join Shirley Lynn Martin, Karen McCarthy (Peace Circle Keeper) and Tonya Noble (Peace Circle member, psychotherapist and more) as we offer a brief experience of Peace Circle.

This podcast is the first in a series of three. We invite you to listen as though you are in Peace Circle with us, to cross the threshold of ordinary time into sacred time and space, a place where the heart speaks, listens and is. You will experience the ‘ceremony’ of crossing into sacred space with us.

Once we open Peace Circle, we start with the question, Why Peace Circle? What is it to me? Listen in as we pass the ‘talking piece’ and share the wisdom and beauty in our hearts, and so in yours.

Thank you for joining us in this series. For more information about how you can join a live event, please visit Peace Circles for upcoming dates, themes and locations.

In Conversation with Jen about Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living – Part Three

Listen in as Jennifer Bodenham,  a team development coach, and I conclude our conversation about boundaries and self kindness. In this final (of three) podcast, we explore why we need boundaries, what they are and one specific exercise to help you learn how you can get started towards living a life that is more kind and joyful. The wonder and value of self-kindness, health and maintaining connection with others, even when it starts to get difficult are mutually possible with a little education and lots of commitment towards peaceful relating with all our relations (that means ourselves too).

This is just a sample of what you will experience by attending The Self Kindness Response: Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living workshop on February 24-25th, 2017.

Listening to our Bodies: A Path to Relating Peacefully

Listen Up!

Recently Jennifer Bodenham,  a team development coach, and I sat down to create a 3-part podcast series about Boundaries. Throughout these podcasts, we explore why we need boundaries, what they are and even share a concrete exercise that will help you can get started towards living a life that is more kind and joyful.

The wonder and value of self-kindness, health and maintaining connection with others, even when it starts to get difficult are mutually possible. The second podcast In Conversation with Jen about Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living – Part Two is now available. And in case you missed the first one, In Conversation with Jen about Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living, listen to it first to catch the flow of our conversation. The final podcast will be available next week.

I hope you enjoy this series and feel free to share them with others.


Listening to our Bodies: A Path to Relating Peacefully

Recently I was involved in a conversation in which we found ourselves sharing what we had learned about listening more closely to the cues our bodies were telling us. We each had a story of a physical injury that occurred because we didn’t listen to our bodies when it essentially said ‘enough.’ …Sigh…

It compelled me to reflect back to a workshop with Dr. Gabor Maté, author of When the Body Says No,  where he identified key characteristics of the stress-prone personality including:

  1. Difficulty saying No;
  2. Automatic and compulsive regard for the needs of others without considering one’s own;
  3. Rigid and compulsive identification with duty, role, and responsibility rather than with the true self;
  4. Habitual suppression or repression of healthy anger and assertion.

As I read this list, a couple of things stand out for me. This list is about lies we tell ourselves and about compulsive behaviours to please others or to live within the status quo we assume others expect of us.  –And we wondered why we got sick or injured when we ignored our bodies’ cues?

What struck me even more as I began to examine my own life is how we find it acceptable to lie with casual regularity. We lie to others when we say yes to them, but we really want to say no. We lie to ourselves saying we aren’t worthy enough and so we push onward when our bodies need to relax. We lie about our real needs and who we really are, compulsively rushing to the needs (and perhaps drama) of others (or our own). We lie about feeling angry at the boundaries that have been trespassed and then stay silent and perhaps punishing our partner or child or friend because of all the feelings we have lied about inside.

Lies create stress and conflict, both internal and external. Conflict disrupts our peace and our health. When we lie to ourselves and disregard the messages our bodies send us, we inflict a hidden emotional stress on ourselves and our bodies.

Just as good relationships with others keep us healthy and can heal us, good relationships with our bodies keep us healthy and can heal us. Good relationships require healthy boundaries that support our sense of true self and protect us against what drains our essential vitality. Healthy boundaries are like a good immune system—protects against what takes life and sustains our essence so we can participate in our purpose and what is truly life-giving.

We are hard-wired to need closeness, to need connection and belonging with others. We are equally hard-wired to need to express ourselves, to know who we are and then to be seen and respected. In other words, we are hard-wired to be authentic. When these two needs are in conflict or when they are incongruent over time, we are at war with ourselves. This war leads to illness. As Dr. Maté writes, “illness is not random”.

If you are like me, listening to your body is a daily task I have to remind myself to do. What is it my body needs to eat? What kind of exercise does my body need today? What decision do I need to make in my work that is congruent with my life purpose so I can stay healthy? What anger must I be honest about and what must I speak up about in my intimate relationships to increase my own sense of inner peace?

If you struggle with finding the joy of the body you have and so you ignore it even more. If you find yourself suppressing your own needs to look after other’s needs making you depressed, injured or always living in chaos, consider my upcoming two-day workshop on February 24-25th, 2017 – Self Kindness Response: Healthy Boundaries for Joyful Living!

The following comment by a workshop participant last fall really speaks to the substance and richness of this workshop. Please consider it for yourself too!

Just taking the boundaries workshop was an act of kindness towards myself. I learned to tune into my body to get a sense of what is a healthy boundary for me. Instead of going into my head, I feel how my body feels about something. There’s no arguing with the body! Even if there is another way to assess a situation and respond, it doesn’t matter because my body is telling me MY truth, MY healthy boundary in that situation, and that’s all that counts. I love the sense of certainty this has given me because I know my body is trustworthy. I have gained a stronger sense of myself and a feeling of being on solid ground. It was also helpful to work with a partner afterwards to keep working on what we’d learned at the workshop. Such a beautiful workshop space, too!  T.H.

Peace & Namaste,
Shirley Lynn

In Conversation with Jen about Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living – Part Two

Listen in as Jennifer Bodenham,  a team development coach, and I continue our conversation about boundaries. In this second (of three) podcasts, we explore why we need boundaries, what they are and one specific exercise to help you learn how you can get started towards living a life that is more kind and joyful. The wonder and value of self-kindness, health and maintaining connection with others, even when it starts to get difficult are mutually possible with a little education and lots of commitment towards peaceful relating with all our relations (that means ourselves too).

This is just a sample of what you will experience by attending The Self Kindness Response: Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living workshop on February 24-25th, 2017.