Author: Shirley Lynn

The Divine Art of Healing

All suffering and illness comes from a perceived sense of separation (an unloved state).

Dr. Leonard Laskow (MD)

Healing is how we recover, repair, restore and retain health and wholeness in mind, body, spirit, community and environment. Healing may or may not result in cure.

The Samueli Institute

First we have to heal our spirit. Secondly we have to keep our body healthy. If our spirit is healthy and conformed to the truth, the body will get healthy naturally.

Usui Sensei (Founder of Reiki Ryoho)

 

The greatest mistake in the treatment of diseases is that there are physicians for the body and physicians for the soul, although the two cannot be separated.      Plato

The American Medical Association (AMA) states 80 percent of all health problems are stress related, and even the conservative Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has stated that 85 percent of all diseases appear to have an emotional element.    Dr. Mercola

The most Divine art is healing. It must occupy itself with the soul as well as the body. Pythagorus

 

Tao of Healing

Going beyond the ordinary

Shedding the orthodox

In radiant Emptiness

The Self-nature reveals.  I Ching

To heal a nation, we must first heal the individuals, the families and the communities. We listened to three women yesterday. What they had to say tells me that spiritual rebirth is happening; spiritual rebirth is absolutely essential. The imperative for us now, as Native people, is to heal our communities, and heal our nations, because we are the final teachers in this sacred land. We have to teach how to live in harmony with each other and with the whole creation. People will have to put down their greed and arrogance before they can hear what we are saying. I am not sure how many will do that. So we are in the process of healing ourselves, healing our communities, and healing our nations.

The closing words of Elder Art Solomon at a conference at University of Sudbury in 1992

Illness is a physical manifestation of spiritual decay. Healing, ritual and community – these three elements are vitally linked….

The Healing Wisdom of Africa by Malidoma Patrice Somé (Dagara People)

The journey of healing is one filled with mystery. Over centuries, from different times and parts of the world, we hear the same message written in many ways – the body and mind are one; soul and body are one. Even Mother Earth and Self are one. Our health and the health of our community is one.

Here in the west, we have been so trained to separate our spirit from our body, our self from our community, and we forget to consult our inner or ancestral wisdom and our spiritual state when seeking to heal our physical bodies. It’s not that medical, alternative or body therapies shouldn’t be used to treat illnesses manifesting in the body. Indeed, the spirit, mind, energy, and body are one!

The missed opportunity is often, however, to include one’s inner wisdom, one’s spiritual guidance system to offer insight, answers and inner knowing to the path of wholeness and spiritual healing that our medical models often fail to include as essential to the healing the soul of a person and their community and more. Often what receives little attention in the healing path is the spiritual decay and the need for spiritual awakening that offers the power of the mind/body connection to heal itself.

As you ponder this wisdom shared above from over cultures, centuries and even current research, I invite you to listen to my latest series of podcasts on healing. My friend and colleague Colin Hillstrom, a Transformation coach, and I held a series of “fireside chat” discussions about healing. Our conversation covers our experiences with healing, what we understand healing to be, and how healing connects us to spiritual awakening. Listen to the first in the series.

Blessed be the way of your healing!

Namaste,

Shirley Lynn

An Open Invitation to Celebrate Our Relationship with Mother Earth

Outdoor Peace Circle: Loving Mother Earth, Loving Self

“Each of us carries Mother Earth inside of us. You are the Earth. You realise that your consciousness is also the consciousness of the Earth.  – Thich Nhat Hanh

You are invited to enjoy the full sensory experience of Mother Earth’s love and beauty in this first Outdoor Peace Circle. Amidst the many sights, sounds and scents of a backyard garden, we will delve into – what’s our tipping point that moves us from being in love with Mother Earth to being out of love with ourselves (and thus with Mother Earth)?

Co-Facilitators Shirley Lynn Martin & Karen McCarthy have put together an inspiring Peace Circle on Saturday, June 24th during which participants will have the opportunity to reflect on and draw wisdom from Thich Nhat Hanh’s article ‘Falling Back in Love with Mother Earth’.

Come. Join Us in cherishing our precious Earth. This is a matter of personal and collective happiness and survival.

Outcomes we wish for this Circle:

  • to learn ‘to do’ self love by ‘loving Mother Earth’
  • to expand, enhance and deepen our meaning of self love as we learn to expand/deepen our meaning of loving Mother Earth
  • to create deeper connection and integrated awareness of the path to loving ourselves, to loving Mother Earth
  • to support community who chooses to love ourselves, Mother Earth, and each other
  • to experience the healing power in the Circle ceremony and stories that collectively transform our being and our relationships.

Saturday, June 24th, 2017

12:00pm – 4:00pm in Waterloo, ON

this Circle will be outdoors (weather permitting)

Cost: $60 (+HST)

For more information about Peace Circle and to register, please email Shirley Lynn at Shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com. To register online, see Loving Mother Earth, Loving Self.

Registration Deadline is Monday June 19th (to avoid late fee)

Looking forward to sitting in Circle with you!

Karen & Shirley Lynn

A Moment of Love

Whoever does not love, does not know God, because God is love. – I John 4:8

The wind is breezy, moving and swaying the long grass in the field. As I lay a track for Carlie, I decide which portions of the track will follow ‘downwind’ and which part will have a ‘cross wind’. I choose terrain of various grass lengths because scent is held, pooled and travelled depending upon terrain and vegetation and I want to lay track that is both challenging and yet achievable, encouraging her to be confident in her skill to “follow the trail”.

The sun is bright and it is a wonderful Friday afternoon, heading into summer’s first long weekend. When I return to the house, Carlie is sitting at the door, patiently waiting for me. She knows ‘the game’ that is about to take place. I putter around the house waiting for Nature to do ‘Her thing’ with the track, moving the scent here and there with the wind. Nature loves joining in on our tracking adventures, sometimes as an aid, sometimes as a trickster.

Finally, it’s time. I put on her tracking harness, clip on the long line and put a few treats in my pocket. Carlie starts tracking before she even gets to the track. (She is always seeking the advantage.) Her tail is up and wagging, her eyes are bright and she is panting with anticipation and joy. We get to the start area and I tell her ‘search’. Down goes her nose and into another world she enters. She finds the trail, pulls forward and begins. I walk behind her. She maneuvers the corners, the wind, and the different terrain with delight in the game and in her skill. Challenges arise and become solved. We find the first two items. The gravel poses a difficulty and I have to direct her to follow scent on gravel, across bricks and then wahoo, the tug toy is hidden under a plant in the garden, the final ‘lost item’. We play tug. She tugs and growls and pulls and shakes the tug. What joy! A truly glorious moment.

The moment grabs my heart. My heart opens with love for Carlie. I feel an expansiveness in my chest and I know we are connected. I feel a complete harmony with her joy, and as we return to the house, we celebrate one another and the best we bring to each other. I feel the laughter of the sun and the humour in the wind who created just enough challenge to stretch our minds about what is possible. In this moment of love, of expansiveness and harmony, I feel Goddess ~ I feel Love, or in the words of Pema Chodron, Compassionate Abiding, connected with the Mystery, one with all Essence.

It was that simple. An openness to loving another. A pure joy. Unitive harmony. A surrender which takes me deep into my Self and beyond my ego. And for a moment, reality changes. For a moment, I transform. For a moment, I plant my feet in the land of blessing, and I am home in love. I accept I am accepted in Goddess Love. I recall Tillich’s words: “Sometimes at that moment a wave of light breaks into our darkness, and it is as though a voice were saying: ‘You are accepted. You are accepted, accepted by that which is greater than you, and the name of which you do not know. Do not ask for the name now; perhaps you will find it later. Do not try to do anything now; perhaps later you will do much. Do not seek for anything; do not perform anything; do not intend anything. Simply accept the fact that you are accepted! If that happens to us, we experience grace. After such an experience we may not be better than before, and we may not believe more than before. But everything is transformed. In that moment, grace conquers sin, and reconciliation bridges the gulf of estrangement. And nothing is demanded of this experience, no religious or moral or intellectual presupposition, nothing but acceptance.” – from Paul Tillich’s sermon You Are Accepted.

In Reiki Ryoho practice, we say Reiki is Love, Pure Awareness, the Essence of Everything. Goddess is Love. Love is pure acceptance. The core of our meditations is to surrender whole heartedly into this Universal Love and Harmony, into this Abiding Compassion, into Goddess who is within us and is the Essence of Everything. And gently, we are changed and change. Love changes everything. Accepting Pure Acceptance transforms us.

Create a moment and return to Love yet again. And if you have wandered far or fallen down, and are estranged from that Holy Love, I share this invitation of our Peace Circle:

Come, come, whoever you are. Wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving. It doesn’t matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair. Come, even if you have broken your vows a thousand times. Come, yet again, come, come. – Rumi

Know Love. Be loved. Love. It is the alchemy of life.

Namaste,

Shirley Lynn

 

About our next Peace Circle:

Loving Mother Earth, Loving Self

Saturday, June 24th, 2017

12:00 – 4:00 pm in Waterloo, ON

Weather permitting, this Circle will be outdoors

Cost: $60 (+HST)

Co-Facilitators Shirley Lynn Martin & Karen McCarthy have put together an inspiring Peace Circle during which participants will have the opportunity to reflect on and draw wisdom from Thich Nhat Hanh’s article “Falling Back in Love with Mother Earth”.

During our time together in Circle, we will:

  • learn ‘to do’ self love by ‘loving Mother Earth’
  • expand, enhance and deepen our meaning of self love as we learn to expand/deepen our meaning of loving Mother Earth
  • create deeper connection and integrated awareness of the path to loving ourselves, to loving Mother Earth

Come join us and spend the afternoon in a community who chooses to love ourselves, Mother Earth, and each other. Experience the healing power in the Circle ceremony and stories that collectively transform our being and our relationships. Register today!

In Conversation with Colin About Healing – Podcast #3

Shirley Lynn and Colin Hillstrom, a Transformation coach, continue their “fireside chat” about healing. We explore our experiences with healing, what we understand healing to be, and how healing connects us to spiritual awakening.

These conversations were guided by questions from our clients as well as questions that came up for us during our conversation. We talk about how can anyone get started, what is the right use of energy and how we cope with changes that healing brings.

This podcast is the third in the series. If you missed the first one and/or the second one, please listen to them first. Thanks for joining us as we continue our conversation…

In Conversation with Colin About Healing – Podcast #2

Shirley Lynn and Colin Hillstrom, a Transformation coach, continue their “fireside chat” about healing. We explore our experiences with healing, what we understand healing to be, and how healing connects us to spiritual awakening.

These conversations were guided by questions from our clients as well as questions that came up for us during our conversation. We talk about how can anyone get started, what is the right use of energy and how we cope with changes that healing brings.

This podcast is the second in the series. If you missed the first one, please check it out. Join us as we continue our conversation…

In Conversation with Colin About Healing – Podcast #1


Shirley Lynn and Colin Hillstrom, a Transformation coach, hold a series of “fireside chat” discussions about healing. We explore our experiences with healing, what we understand healing to be, and how healing connects us to spiritual awakening.

These conversations were guided by questions from our clients as well as questions that came up for us during our conversation. We talk about how can anyone get started, what is the right use of energy and how we cope with changes that healing brings.

This podcast is the first in the series. Join us as we continue our conversation…

Just thought you would want to know about this…

I’ve got some exciting upcoming trainings and growth opportunities – take a quick peek and find what resonates with you. Hope to see you soon!    – Shirley Lynn

Peace Circle:  Loving Mother Earth, Loving Self

“You carry Mother Earth within you … She is not outside of you. Mother Earth is not just your environment.
In that insight of inter-being, it is possible to have real communication with the Earth, which is the highest form of prayer. In that kind of relationship you have enough love, strength and awakening in order to change your life. …”

          Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh

If these words of wisdom by Thich Nhat Hanh speak to you, you won’t want to miss our next Peace Circle on Saturday, June 24th.

Karen and Shirley Lynn have put together an inspiring Peace Circle during which participants will have the opportunity to reflect on and draw wisdom from Thich Nhat Hanh’s article ‘Falling Back in Love with Mother Earth’.

Outcomes we wish for this Circle:

  • to learn ‘to do’ self love by ‘loving Mother Earth’
  • to expand, enhance and deepen our meaning of self love as we learn to expand/deepen our meaning of loving Mother Earth
  • to create deeper connection and integrated awareness of the path to loving ourselves, to loving Mother Earth
  • to support community who chooses to love ourselves, Mother Earth, and each other
  • to experience the healing power in the Circle ceremony and stories that collectively transform our being and our relationships.

Saturday, June 24th, 2017

12:00pm – 4:00pm in Waterloo, ON

Weather permitting, this Circle will be outdoors

Cost: $60 (+HST)

For more information about Peace Circle and to register, please email Shirley Lynn at Shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com. Additional details about the Summer Peace Circle will be posted very soon.


Reiki Level One Training

life changing and so wonderful…

lotus-215460_640You wouldn’t believe how many people have expressed this sentiment to me as they begin their Reiki journey. And they mean it. In fact, this is one of the reasons I continue to teach these powerful healing techniques and spiritual practices to students just like you.

Are you ready to begin?

Gendai Reiki Ho and Komyo Reiki Kai are often called Japanese Reiki, or traditional Japanese Usui Reiki. These styles are simple yet profound ways to improve and bring balance, harmony, inner relaxation and pure awareness to our mind, body, spirit relationship.

This Level One Intensive includes 20 hours of class time over three days:

Friday & Saturdays June 2-3, & 10 (3 days)
9:30am – 4:30pm
Location:  Waterloo, Ontario

Cost: $350 +HST (includes training manual with extensive addendum)

WHAT WE WILL STUDY:

  • Level One Reiki meditations
  • Reiki Ryoho history and core spiritual teachings
  • The Five Principles and how to apply them in your everyday life
  • Hand positions and giving treatments
  • Grounding and centring through Reiki
  • Treating plants, animals and water through Reiki
  • and more…

Reiki is a ♥️heart path♥️, a path of spiritual practice and awakening as well as self healing.

If you are seeking organic growth, a wealth of self-empowerment and a deepening of the vibrations of Universal Love and Harmony, join me in this life long path of growing into health, happiness and abundance in shared heart-based community!

For more information about this training, whether it is right for you, and to register, please contact me at Shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com, 519-886-6732 or visit my website for Reiki Level One.


New Podcasts in the works

Look for upcoming podcasts in which Colin Hillstrom and Shirley Lynn discuss “Conversations about Healing”. We asked our respective clients what questions they have about the healing process. During the podcasts, we will be sharing our thoughts and experiences in responding to these questions.

Stay tuned!

The Self Kindness Response:  Boundaries for Healthy and Joyful Living Workshop

  • Are you tired of feeling misunderstood, taken advantage of, uncared for and want to learn and practise how to say yes or no in ways that feel right for you?
  • Do you struggle with setting boundaries that are kind yet firm?
  • Are you ready to let go of longstanding feelings of hurt and resentment and choose instead ‘inner happiness’?
  • As a highly sensitive person, do you find yourself picking up on other people’s emotional or energetic ‘stuff’?
  • Are you ready to exercise greater loving-kindness in your self care?

If you can relate to any of these questions, this workshop is for you! Mark your calendar now.

Friday & Saturday, September 29-30th, 2017

9:00 am to 5:00 pm

Location: Private Home just minutes from (north) Waterloo, ON

Cost: $297 +HST

Need a sampler of this workshop? Check out my three-part podcast series In Conversation with Jen about Boundaries for Healthy & Joyful Living. Join my conversations with Jen Bodenham as we explore what boundaries are and why we need them. I hope it motivates you to join me at my two-day workshop in September!


Spring Maintenance Reminder

Book an individual coaching session or series and fine tune your Soul’s Purpose and polish your inner beauty.

At Feathers, Rainbows & Roses, the Spring Maintenance Program utilizes the Wisdom’s Way to Peace System of Life & Spiritual Development. I will integrate the techniques of life coaching, spiritual-ethical direction, life and spiritual awakening coaching, Reiki meditation and healing, energy psychology therapy, energy balancing techniques, and conflict management coaching. And, you will leave each session with Action Steps designed to advance your wellness, happiness and success – ultimately fulfilling your goals and life purpose. Move beyond To-do’s to TA-DA!!

Richest blessings to each and every one of you. May your hearts be filled with light and song.

Namaste,

Shirley Lynn

The Hidden Blessing of Spring

The Joy of Spring

Spring is here and so we often find ourselves also getting more spring in our step too! As I write this blog today, I find myself sensing the joy in my heart expand and fill with the blue sky, bright sun, fresh air and green grass. The dogs and I are again playing in the creek behind the house. Of course, they are giggling as they smell the fresh scents, run in and out of the creek and check to see who is coming out of winter’s hibernation! On our way back to the house, Rayna and Carlie drag their feet just like little kids who doesn’t want to go home from the playground. I promise them they can hang outside on the front porch and I will give them a treat for coming back without complaining. I can certainly appreciate their joy of simply taking in the sun and fresh spring air and I join them in savouring the beauty of the day.

For most people, saying good-bye to winter is done with relative ease and cheer. We anticipate the longer and warmer days of spring when purple crocuses and white snowdrops emerge, followed by daffodils and tulips and so many other spring blooms all reawakening and brightening the backdrop of mud and last year’s leftover debris. For most people, the end of winter’s grief rarely registers as anything but a great sigh of relief.

The Paradox

And yet, Spring brings us a new kind of paradox where new life is mixed with new energy. With this new life, we often open with relative ease to ‘let go’ of a ‘bad mood’. We are empowered to ‘lighten our mind’ toward growth and renewal.  In Chinese medicine, spring is the season of the liver and the ideal time to detox the liver system, helping it to ‘let go’. Just like we prune shrubs and bushes to promote healthy and richer growth, our bodies need support to be purified to promote health and vital energy.

In TCM, the metaphysics of frustration, bitterness, and the nuances of anger are often associated with the liver system and its (un)happy chi flow. What an interesting opportunity – the gift of spring to help us more easily release our anger! Spring invites us to ask ourselves: What anger can I let go to lighten my heart? or perhaps What anger can I let go of to increase the joy in my life?

The Disease of Anger

In his book When the Body Says No, Gabor Maté writes that holding onto anger creates a significant cost in hidden stress to the body. Some people know they are angry, but fear their anger. Others are not aware they feel anger because it’s ‘not okay’ to be angry, so they repress it deep into the body. Others believe that if they are angry, it makes them unlovable.

We are aware that unregulated expression of anger is problematic and hurtful to others. We also know that repression of anger causes disease in the body. Maté quotes a Woody Allen character: “ I never get angry. I grow a tumour instead.” So we often are faced with a significant inner conflict – if I get angry, I will rage on others and hurt them which I don’t want to do … or I might not be loved. But if I don’t express it, I will hurt my own body, my own being, even to the point of causing disease. Even our spiritual practice tells me ‘do not anger’! What a seeming doubly double bind we are in! The very thought of this double bind creates anxiety and fear in us because we fear the genuine expression of anger.

Getting Beyond the Double Bind

Allen Kalpin, a physician and psychotherapist writes that healthy anger is an empowerment and a relaxation. Anger does not require hostile acting out. Maté summarizes: People discharge their anger outwardly because they fear fully experiencing it internally. Both the unbridled expression of anger and its automatic suppression arise from an anxiety we first feel in early childhood. It is inherently anxiety-producing for a small child to be angry with those he is dependent on, Dr. Kalpin points out. The real experience of anger “is a physiologic experience without acting out“. The experience is one of a surge of power going through the system, along with a mobilization to attack. There is, simultaneously, a complete disappearance of all anxiety.

“When healthy anger is starting to be experienced, you don’t see anything dramatic. What you do see is a decrease of all muscle tension. The mouth is opening wider, because the jaws are more relaxed, the voice is lower in pitch because the vocal cords are more relaxed. The shoulders drop, and you see all signs of muscle tension disappearing.”[1]

Moving beyond the double bind means we give ourselves permission to feel the surge of aggressive energy that arises with anger, calmly and without anxiety. We also choose to feel our anger without acting it out. Notice the spiritual ethic of so many wisdom traditions, Do not anger. It tells us to not act it out ( a behaviour, not a feeling … it’s the verb form). But for health and well-being, for the joy to flow vital in our hearts, we need to calmly experience the surge of aggression and speak to the injustice. We need to know we are loved and safe within ourselves even with our anger. And as we do, we ‘let it go’ and lighten our minds and hearts.

Compassion: Returning to Joy through Fierceness: The hidden blessing

In my work with psychologist and leadership coach Rev. Rob Voyle, we refer to the Three Faces of Compassion. He describes one of the faces of compassion as fierceness. Fierceness is often a needed expression of compassion in the face of injustice. Voyle states that this “compassion face of fierceness is a single-minded determination to bring about a just future”.

Listen to Martin Luther King Jr speak to the injustices Black America was suffering as a result of systemic racism (and still is). His voice is strong, yet his body is relatively relaxed. He does not mince words in his condemnation of injustices of racism. King has a single-minded focus in challenging and speaking to and expressing his anger about what is grossly unjust in America. His entire spine is filled with the power of “NO”, I will not accept this racism as my destiny. “I have a dream” he so powerfully and eloquently orates to his listeners. His compassion for his people, for his country, for all life was fierce. His joy had immense historical vision. It changed history. As did his healthy anger expressed through fierce compassion.

I am always amazed at the mystery of Universal flows liberating our hearts to increase our joy. The fullness that awakens with Spring and sun and fresh air, flowers budding and birds singing all brighten us. The letting go of the hidden anger, the all-consuming rage causing pain and disease enlightens our bodies and our minds. These two flows join together with a third flow, Love and Compassion of the Universe, creating a trinity of healing and blessing of a new and emerging joy.

With Spring now in full swing, I encourage you to prune the mental habits and filters that keep anger stuck in your heart and body. Follow the seasonal flow and take the time to cleanse. Enhance the flows of joy in your heart and life. Invite the  sunshine back into your heart. If you need help bringing Spring back into your Heart, please contact me at shirley@shirleylynnmartin.com to get started with soul coaching and whole life therapy. Together we will bring new flow to your body, mind and soul.

Namaste,

Shirley Lynn

[1]http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/anger-management/article1113421/

Spring Maintenance Reminder Notice

This notice is not for your car, it’s for You!

With the melted snow, the return of many birds, the re-emerging of hibernating animals and buds on trees and new plant growth, it is easy to feel and see the many harbingers of spring.

Spring has many messages associated with it regarding upkeep and maintenance of our homes, our bodies (both inside and out) and our communities. Property maintenance crews are in full swing; fitness clubs and diet programs urge us to shed extra weight in preparation for summer clothes and activities; health stores are promoting organ detox/cleansing products; and on it goes.

But how often do we put the same emphasis on rejuvenating our inner selves – evaluating our personal goals and aspirations for 2017 (are you on track?); nurturing our relationships and attending to their healthy growth and maintenance; birthing and attending to our soul’s true purpose and beauty??

I invite you to move your Self up your list of priorities … just like your car or home, you can’t neglect its care and expect it to perform optimally in the long term.

SCHEDULE YOUR SPRING MAINTENANCE TODAY. Book an individual coaching session or series and fine tune your Soul’s Purpose and polish your inner beauty.

At Feathers, Rainbows & Roses, the Spring Maintenance Program utilizes the Wisdom’s Way to Peace System of Life & Spiritual Development. I will integrate the techniques of life coaching, spiritual-ethical direction, life and spiritual awakening coaching, Reiki meditation and healing, energy psychology therapy, energy balancing techniques, and conflict management coaching. And, you will leave each session with Action Steps designed to advance your wellness, happiness and success – ultimately fulfilling your goals and life purpose. Move beyond To-do’s to TA-DA!!

Now that’s what I call a SPRING TUNE-UP!  Call or email me today to get started.

When you are ready to live more courageously, shine brighter, reach higher and become your best self, Feathers, Rainbows & Roses is here for you.

Happy Spring Everyone … and see you soon.

Spring Equinox Peace Circle: Forgiving our Past, Rebirthing our Capacity to Love

Why Peace?

“Who will work for peace on our planet? In our relationships? Within ourselves?” These are questions we are currently asking ourselves. With all the negativity that is flooding our airwaves, people are once again saying peace matters, even marching and calling for peace in ways we haven’t seen in decades. We desire love for all humanity and a restored earth.

To make this ‘call’ our collective reality, we must do the work to make peace our experience. We must make peace with our past. We must make peace with the lives we have been giving, rather than wishing for a greener life across the fence. We must be peace. Peace is our path to wholeness, to healing, to the very best of our collective existence.

Change the conversation? Change the chairs!

How do we make peace? One way is to initiate new conversations and a new way to be in conversation. Peter Block writes: “Change the conversation, change your thinking, change your life. Maybe… listening creates the speaking. Maybe citizens create leaders, maybe employees create bosses, maybe students create teachers and children create parents. Maybe the purpose of problem solving is to build relationships.”

This is all to say that we have the power to make monumental changes and that one of the ways is by hearing from one another. We also need to change our environment to be better supported to change the conversation. One powerful and ancient First Nations method that changes the conversation, transforms and heals the conversation, is through Circle. We can create circles for healing, for visioning, for building community, for conflict transformation, for remembering our inner wisdom’s way to peace.

The vital Equinox conversation: Forgiving our Past to Re-birth our Capacity to Love

So now that we have a well-tested method on how to change the environment and the principles of circle to change the conversation, what conversation is vital this equinox? What do we do with all the hatred, the negativity and the resentment that is creeping into our spaces and newsfeeds and into our inner sense of hope? Forgiving our past, forgiving our hurts is truly a key and vital change point. Love cannot exist without forgiving. Forgiving what hurt us is only possible with love. Spring brings us renewed hope and in this place of hope, we can access the faith and power to forgive through love.

As Rob Voyle, change agent and Episcopalian priest writes: “Without forgiveness, people remain trapped in their past, obsessing over what has been done to them. This obsession leads the person to use their injury as a way to re-injure themselves and stay in a state of victimization. While they are looking back to the past, it is impossible to look forward and to experience hope. If we are resentful of things from our past, when we do glimpse the future, we are likely to see a repetition of these painful experiences continuing into the future. Rather than welcome the future we are likely to spend considerable effort in taking self-protective measures.”

Bringing in and participating with the equinox is a call to awaken, to re-birth our vitality. The ultimate vitality is love and forgiveness. A specific task of forgiveness is to release our resentments about what happened in the past. Rob Voyle states that “resentment is a current demand that someone or something in the past should have been different. While the event that created our resentment may be in the past, the resentment is in the present and is manifested as a demand about the past.”

Spring is a special time to release the demands feeding our resentment and instead choose to nurture our capacity to love. Really. It’s time to open to the warmth of the sun and to the flow of our vitality. It’s time to live in love, a new kind of love that truly forgives and creates a genuinely new and better future. We cannot use forgiveness to change the past, but doing so will certainly enlarge and enrich our future. And that is where we will live, in our future.

Where can you have this vital conversation?

Join me in the next Peace Circle on Wednesday, March 22nd from 7-9:30 pm and be re-vitalized by the ceremony of forgiving our resentments together. For details about this event, please visit Spring Peace Circle. Limited seating so don’t wait to register.

If you have never experienced Peace Circle, I invite you to listen to our podcast series and be invited into peace circle with Karen, Tonya and myself.

Peace Circle Podcast series

Join Shirley Lynn Martin, Karen McCarthy and Tonya Noble as we again invite you into Peace Circle with us, to cross the threshold into sacred space and time. In our third and final podcast in this series, we explore the ‘Magic of Peace Circle’ we have each personally experienced. What comes to light is that circle transformation is a process that already begins in our preparation, as well as in the actual encounter and continues even days following the Peace Circle. There is a subtle dawning of synchronous joy, peace and awareness of who we truly are that becomes real in our coming together. The magic is real!

Namaste,
Shirley Lynn